“Callie isn’t a victim; she’s never really been a victim and she’s been cheated on before with George. So how she’s going to take this and what she’s going to do next is going to be the bigger issue.”
Ever meet someone who always seems to have a lot of bad stuff happening to them? Their lives are always disasters. I actually have a sister like this. She’s educated, intelligent, has everything going for her but she has drama attracted to her like a magnet. I always wondered why someone who appears to have it all together always seems to be in the middle of chaos.
The only thing Callie Torres is a victim of, is herself. Her decisions, and her own wreckless behavior. Is this what you’re getting at, Shonda? Because that’s how I am reading into it.
Callie is one of those people who fails to see the writing on the wall. All these clues and indicators flash in front of her face scream “Warning” and what does she do? She turns a blind eye and convinces herself that everything is just fine. Callie is not a victim, because she puts herself in situations where there is a potential to be a victim. If a person makes wreckless decisions and doesn’t ponder the consequences, they are playing the victim, not actually a victim. And there’s a big difference.
The writing was on the wall with George, and now Arizona, and she failed to read it. This is her characters nature and she creates her own reality.
She’s my favorite character because she’s brilliant & charismatic but lost, powerful but goofy, outstanding but modest. She’s written to be this force that always seems to fail. It is possible for people to be brilliant but continuously make bad decisions. It makes her the underdog that everyone roots for.
But you can’t keep rooting for someone who keeps putting themselves into situations where they are going to get hurt. I always say this to my sister, you are making your own misery and you’re smart enough to understand that, so why do you expect me to feel sorry for you anymore?
And like everyone is saying on here, she needs to become independent in her own mind before she can repair other people’s problems or be in a relationship with other people. She’s one of those people who think she’s defined by the relationship she’s in and not by who she is, herself, in that relationship. Once she figures out who she is, and what she stands for, the pieces start falling into place with who’s the right person for her to be with.
I’d like to think that person is Arizona. Because I believe Arizona had all this stuff figured out already. She knew who she was, what she wanted, where she was going, and then the roles seemed to reverse.
I believe that Callie isn’t going to crumble and fall apart. I think she’s going to go the opposite route and become stronger.
Yes and yes! Callie doesn’t know how to be single and makes these choices to cling to something else because she never thinks she’s enough. Never knows how good she is as a person, a doctor, even a spouse. Even Cristina said “you have hardly ever been single”.
She loves so blindly that she doesn’t see when trouble is on the horizon and she wants to do patchwork repairs. When her life sometimes actually calls for surgical repairs.
Her worst nightmare as I have observed was losing Arizona. Now that that has happened and the blinders are off her choices moving forward are going to be very interesting. She has now lost control (something she was desperately clinging to) of her marriage and life. We are going to see something unpredictable from her I think. But her eyes are open now.